Ok, a while ago I had to choose between Karl and José. Or I didn’t have to choose, but I had a dilemma if I should, because I almost felt like I was cheating when I was chatting with two guys at the same time. I knew that José was more flirty (and of course very good looking) so I was up for an adventure. But while I was chatting a little more with him I realized that we never could have a future, so I decided it wasn’t necessary to go on a date. (if you remember my rule you know why)

Karl, on the other hand, I really wanted to meet. So I asked him if he was interested in going to dinner, since we both like nice food. And you know what he said? No!! I was like: What???

I was very surprised and I didn’t understand anything. We’ve had so much fun, so why didn’t he want to meet me? But then he explained. Well, at first I didn’t ask anything because I was pretty annoyed that he had lead me on and not made it clear that he just wanted us to be online friends. But he explained that he didn’t just want to be online friends, he wanted more, but he was afraid. He had been to some dates, one where the women was totally crazy and became a stalker for months. After this, he met a women which he fell in love with, but she didn’t share his feelings, so he was very disappointed and sad. They haven’t talked for long, before they decided to go out and for him it was love at first sight.

For these reasons he wanted to get to know me a little bit better before we met. And ok, I can accept that. But I will not wait too long and I will talk to others in the meantime. So there.

I have signed up to match.com and I am hopeful that I will meet someone there. The only thing that I am a bit worried about with match.com is that a lot of the people there judge each other on the pictures and are only interested on going on dates if the person is good looking. So I’m a bit worried, not that I am ugly, but that I will have to have a picture there to get some dates if I don’t sound interesting enough. Hopefully that is not the case and I will have a few matches there so I don’t have to wait for Karl if he’s not ready. Who knows, he might not even want to meet me after we’ve been chatting for a while either so I can’t really go around and wait for him. Please keep your fingers crossed for me in the search for my next true love! I hope you all are having a great love life, other wise contact me and will try to help you out and find some partners we definitely can see and have a future with.

/ Carola

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Will i ever find my one true love?

Hi, my name is Jessica and I’ve had the possibility to write contact add here at To Find Love or Partners. I have decided not to post my picture in public but if you contact Carola she will be able to help you if you are serious in your contact.

So who am I? I’m 32 years old and am a very cheerful person and enjoying life. I’m very spontaneous and enjoy traveling. I love to spend time in nature and am very fond of trekking, especially in different places around the world. I live in Norway, at the border to Sweden, where there are great trekking possibilities. Some of my other hobbies are veggie food, cooking, reading and painting.

I have been single for a couple of years now and want someone to share my hobbies with. So you must have a passion for trekking and traveling. I’m also looking for new friends, so you don’t have to be in search for a romance or relationship. I’m just looking for someone to share my interests with, but of course it would be extra interesting if you were looking for a relationship 🙂

As a person I’m very lojal and loving. Like I said, I love to enjoy life to the fullest. So naturally it would be great if you did to. I’m quite short, 1,58 cm, and fit. When I work out it’s in the nature. Of course it would be best if you lived in the south of Norway, but if you live elsewhere that is no problem, since the world of today is quite a small place which internet has contributed to 🙂

I own a coffeehouse, where I serve veggie- and raw food. So that’s what I have been doing for the last couple of years when not traveling. I don’t have any children, but doesn’t mind if you do. I don’t know if I want children in the future, perhaps with the right person, but that would be a mutual decision. Otherwise I love animals very much, especially cats. I’ve owned a cat before, but lost him recently due to a heart disease. I’m planning to buy a new cat, but will wait for a while since it’s a huge responsibility to have animals.

I also have to tell you that I’m a bingo fan. Not in a bad way, I’m not addicted to gambling, definitely not. But I like it as a social game, because you meet so much nice people. I sometimes play online though, but then I’ll try to find social bingo halls where it’s easy to meet and chat with people. This online bingo guide has been helpful with that.

I hope some of you find my profile interesting 🙂 In that case, contact Carola, so she can pass on the information to me. If I found you interesting which I most likely will I will contact trough Skype or e-mail.

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I’m looking forward hearing from you!

All my best,


Hard decisions

I have a problem! As I mentioned in my earlier post I have two persons that I’m chatting with and I can’t decide whom to choose. Of course, I haven’t met either of them, but I feel like it’s complicated to talking to both of them without they knowing about one another. I have only chatted with them, so we haven’t met in person.

The thing is that they are so different from each other. One of them, Karl, is more like me, he likes eating nice and luxurious food and is very social. He’s qualities are very similar to the qualities I usually get attracted to when it comes to men. Last night we really had some fun playing poker. We compared a couple of poker rooms, this web page was very helpful,  and then signed up for Bwin to play in the same tournament.. We both actually got paid and while playing we chatted via Skype. It was a fun night! The thing is that he’s not very good looking… He looks quite normal though. 40 years old, glasses and 1,78 cm long. He’s a little bit heavy, but seems quite charming and I definitely want to play poker with him again, I have already started to learn more about the game via pokeromega.com

The other guy I’m chatting with is José. As the name implies he’s from Spain and very good looking according to his profile picture. He’s dark, brown eyed, 1,83 cm long and likes to work out. The problem with him is that he’s quite mystical and flirty. Therefor I found him very sexy, but I don’t know his intentions and if his honest or not. I found that a long time relationship with him would be quite difficult, since he doesn’t prioritize good food over his training. But a small adventure perhaps…

Or would that be to mean to Karl? On the other hand, we aren’t exclusive, we haven’t even met. And we haven’t decided that we can’t date others. So I’m thinking about going on a date with José first to see what he’s like. Perhaps I had to make an exception from my rule with no sex on the first date…;)

With online dating increasing, so is the competition between candidates. It’s almost like positing a CV at a dating site. You have to be interesting for the people you want to attract.

Here I’m going to provide you with a few online dating tips, that is worth to consider when posting your profile or want to move on with someone.

Post a photo of you – That will increase your chances even if your not very good looking. But seeing a friendly face when reading a contact add shows your follower that you have nothing to hide. In a survey men posing solo got more messengers then men posing with pets or friends, so it might be a good idea to do this. You’re also more likely to get good response if you have a professional picture taken, rather than a selfie. If you show your full body it also shows that you have nothing to hide. And be sure not to wear clothes that you don’t normally wear, since you don’t want to fool anyone. And of course – smile and look friendly!

Show your active side – Even though your not into sports it’s nice to know that you have interests or take care of your health. Perhaps you like long walks or swimming when you’re on the beach. There can also be good point to describe yourself as relaxed or cool if that’s true. But no one wants anyone lazy, so be careful.

When talking to contacts, try to be honest. Tell them about exes or mistakes in your life, since this also shows that you have nothing to hide.

Be available – When texting, it’s a good idea to be able to understand the most regular terms that are used, like lol, wtf, LTR etc. Also, adapt your time when chatting to the person your chatting with. Does he or she prefer to chat at night or daytime? Don’t be appropriate in your language and make sure you have the right conduct when it comes to being available. Don’t say that you won’t be available, just to log in a few hours later. And don’t be too clingy!

Dating online is a science, so please give me your best dating tips. And there are always exceptions, what works for one person might not work for the next person. So you might have to find out by testing and risk to loose someone along the way.

But the things that almost always works is to have a good photo, be nice and honest. Don’t wait too long with making a move if there’s a chance the person might meet others or get bored waiting for you. I have left guys who took too long making a move. I didn’t want to make a move myself, since I wasn’t sure if their intentions and therefor I lost my interest in talking to them.

My first dateI have told you a little bit about me and why I think online dating is alright. You can read all about it here. I think it would be fair to share my first online dating experience as well, since I would like you to share your stories as well. To be correct, this is about my first live date after I had decided to try online dating.

As I said, I created a profile at a big Swedish matchmaking site. I look quite alright, but thought it was too scary to share my photo at Internet. Now I have got used to doing so, both at matchmaking sites and also at Facebook and Instagram. But at that time I had just ended a long relationship.

Since I didn’t get many replies, I posted a photo. And I got several messages. One of them was from a man that I actually ended up with for two years. He was handsome, being a long and blond Swedish guy. He lived quite far from me, but asked me on a date. I was very afraid that I should have to spend the night with him, since I didn’t know anything about him. For all that I knew he could be a serial killer! Anyway, I decided to meet him and he was so nice. He took me to a nice Thai restaurant and then to a movie. I started to feel things for him almost immediately. He was very calm and intelligent and during the evening we talked about politics, our families and background. He was a couple of years older than me, working in a book store and playing golf as a hobby. By the end of the night we had been talking for hours and when I looked at the time it was 02:00 AM and time to go back to my hotel. I didn’t want separate from him and he felt the same way too, he told me afterwards. But he was a gentleman and followed me to my hotel and gave me a kiss. That was it! We decided to eat breakfast at the hotel the morning after and so we did. I had to go back to my home town because of work, but already the next weekend we saw each other again. And the weekend after… And the weekend after… And the weekend after…. We spent almost two years like this, but then we realized the distance made things complicated. Since none of us wanted to move we broke up. But we are still good friends and if I hadn’t started dating online I would never have met him since we live 200 km from each other.

Perhaps destiny wants us to end up together in the future. You’ll never know… But right now I’m ready to kiss more frogs 🙂 And I actually have two now that I’m chatting with, more information will follow….

This is a blog about finding your true love, a lover, a partner or a friend for life. We will talk about how to find a love which nowadays is very easy to do online. You have a bunch of dating sites to choose from, like Match.com and Speeddate.com for persons looking for partners. Of course we will take a look at them, to see which ones that are best for you. There are dating sites with specific criterias, like the Swedish site elitsinglar.se which try to attract academics. There are also sites for people already living in a relationship and want a lover or mistress.

No matter what your reason is, online dating is fun and even if you don’t meet your true love you can make friends for life. Thousands of people meet each other through online dating everyday.

But you have to be aware it’s also a risk when dating online, since you don’t know who you will meet. The person behind the computer can be a different person in real life. You’ll never know. But of course, most people are honest and just in search for a true love. But when you decide about your first meeting, I would choose to meet somewhere in public.

I hope we will have a couple of guests in this blog, that are in the search for others. Please contact me if you want to put a short profile in this blog in hope to meet others. Or if you want to share your experiences in online dating.

Here I will share my own experience of dating and how I have found partners a long the way. Although I’m single again now, I have met some wonderful men that I hope will stay my friends forever.

Good luck dating!